In nearly 30 years of practice, we’ve culled through hundreds of products, worked with thousands of patients and answered many, many questions. Through this process we have developed our own list of the most helpful, effective products on the market for men interested in improving their sex lives and we are happy to make this information available to you.

Also, check out our recommended products for women!


Constriction Bands (AKA Cock Rings)

Virtually every man should have fun using a constriction band because it makes the penis a little bit harder and engorged and helps to create a different sensation. Wearing a c-ring can create larger, harder erections, and intensify the sensation of an orgasm.

The Screaming O Ring

RingO’s are super-stretchy, simple and effective pleasure rings designed for erection-enhancement and more satisfying sex – no vibration required. Good for beginners and less expensive than the Tantus. Learn More

Tantus Super Soft C-Ring

The Tantus is a more advanced ring, is moderately stretchy and requires a little bit more skill in application technique. It’s our number one c-ring recommendation. It’s made of silicone, is more comfortable and will last longer than the less expensive options. Learn More

Masturbation Aids

Many men have acquired poor masturbation habits that have caused issues. For example, men with Premature Ejaculation may need to desensitize their penis, while other men may have inadvertently desensitized their penis by idiosyncratic masturbation habits. Masturbation sleeves can play a very useful role in promoting penile health.

Head Honcho

Per the manufacturer, “With a stamp of approval from a well-know sexpert Sue Johanson, this head honcho pocket masturbator toy will be the best substitute for the real thing.” Soft, pliable and gentle, this toy delivers the most realistic sensation. Learn More

Intimate Grip Stroker

This sleeve delivers considerably more stimulation than the Head Honcho. Firmer and tighter material creates an over the top experience. This device is the transition between both extremes (desensitization vs. resensitization). Learn More

Tenga Flip Hole

This may be the most stimulating masturbation sleeve on the market. The manufacturer describes it as, “Filled with silicone ribs, nubs, gates, flaps and pumps. The Tenga Flip Hole has an astonishing complex inside shape. Every centimeter of it has a particular function. Its flexible casing with buttons allows a total control of the stimuli.” Learn More


Passion Wireless Therapeutic Massager

Most men do not think vibratory stimulation is for them. Give this one a try and it will change your mind. Note, women’s vibrators are not strong enough for men. This product is designed for couples to use on each other. This massager is our #1 recommended product to men. Learn More

Aneros Prostate Massager

Originally designed as a medical device for prostate health, it’s gained enormous popularity as a source of pleasure for men. Most men are familiar with the A spot or P spot. The Aneros trains the user on how to target the prostate safely and effectively. In our practice, we have found it to be very effective in treating delayed ejaculation. Learn More

Refined Coconut Oil

Refined coconut oil, which is odorless and tasteless, expands the range of touch on yourself or your partner. We strongly recommend using coconut oil for masturbation but it’s just as good for partnered play. Note, this should not be used with condoms. While it can be used as a lubricant, it’s greatest asset is enhancing skin to skin contact between partners. Learn More

Sex Tie/Blindfold

Sometimes you just need to change it up a bit! It gives a fun, exciting experience to couples when predictability becomes a problem. This tie is nearly 5 feet long, made of comfortable satin fabric and can be used to blindfold or restrain. Learn More


Guide to Getting It On

By P. N. Joannides, 2004

This is a (very large) lively, upbeat, book that covers nearly every element of sexuality in a straightforward, plain-talk, humorous way. It is clearly, aimed at a young, hip audience but nearly everyone would have something to learn from this book. It is, however, extremely explicit both in its pictures and its text and some may find it offensive.

Let Me Count the Ways

By Marty Klein & Riki Robbins, 1999

Two leading experts on human sexuality explain how to make sex more enjoyable without intercourse, helping men and women alike rediscover the pleasures of sensuality and “outercourse.”

Coping with Premature Ejaculation

By Barry W. McCarthy & Michael E. Metz, 2004

It is estimated that 30 million American men have problems with premature ejaculation. This book contains the latest, scientifically-based, multidimensional methods for overcoming all types of premature ejaculation and includes a complete relapse prevention program.

Coping with Erectile Dysfunction

By Barry W. McCarthy & Michael E. Metz, 2004

There seem to be no end to the “authoritative” explanations and “guaranteed” easy treatments for erectile dysfunction (ED). Since the so-called Viagra revolution, conventional wisdom holds that the problem can be fixed simply by taking a pill. The truth of the matter is, though, that ED is often a complex condition affected by physical, psychological, and relationship issues — and it’s a problem shared by both a man and his partner. This book is the first ever to address this common problem using a comprehensive biological, psychological, and social approach. It offers a proven-effective program for regaining erectile function, building strong and intimate relationships, and having great sex.

Testosterone: A Man's Guide

By Nelson Vergel, 2011

There are several testosterone books on Amazon. What makes this one so different is that it is written by Nelson Vergel (Founder of ExcelMale.com and DiscountedLabs.com), a chemical engineer and 33+ year HIV and cancer survivor that discovered in 1993 that testosterone could save him from wasting syndrome and death. Since then, he has been his own lab rat as he worked with research groups, doctors, compounding pharmacies and pharmaceutical companies to evaluate all available testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) options (gels, injections, pellets, etc) as well as products to reverse and minimize side effects of testosterone (HCG, anastrozole, and others).

Last updated: October 2023